Arrow Fat Left Icon Arrow Fat Right Icon Arrow Right Icon Cart Icon Close Circle Icon Expand Arrows Icon Facebook Icon Pinterest Icon Twitter Icon Youtube Icon Hamburger Icon Information Icon Down Arrow Icon Mail Icon Mini Cart Icon Person Icon Ruler Icon Search Icon Shirt Icon Triangle Icon Bag Icon Play Video
  • 8 Reasons to Stop Living Up to Someone Else's Expectations
  • Ana Talukder
  • accessory pouchdivorcedoing what you wantexpectationsinspirationalliving your dreammotivationalnew lifepretty peacockstarting over

8 Reasons to Stop Living Up to Someone Else's Expectations

8 Reasons to Stop Living Up to Someone Else's Expectations

I was supposed to be a lawyer when I grew up.

It was a good plan. A solid plan. A practical plan.

For someone else.

So, I bailed on doing it. After I had graduated pre-law. After I had taken the LSATS. After I had applied to law school.

I disappointed a lot of people.

And it was one of the best decisions I have ever, ever, EVER made.

We should all do this type of thing way more. But we don't. We, as people, want to please. We want to be liked. We want to make other people happy - at the expense of our own needs and wants.

Well, stop that nonsense right now.

Here are 10 reasons why you should stop trying to live up to someone else's expectations and gain happiness:

1.  Because you don't have to. Seems so logical, right? I mean, life isn't under any obligation to give us what we expect, so we're under no obligation to give people what they expect. Do it because it makes your heart happy. Do it because it's good for your soul. Do it because it fills your bucket. But don't do it just because it's expected of you - that's just hollow. 

2. Because it's not your job to make everyone happy. Not everyone is going to like us. Not everyone is going to like what we do. And that's okay. That's better than OK - that means we're being real and true to ourselves. 

3. Because you don't need permission to grow.  When I decided not to go to law school, it was craziness. I thought Dad was going to have an aneurysm. My husband at the time was disappointed that we weren't going to be a "power couple" (gag).  My mother felt like all the training she provided on being self sufficient and having a career was down the toilet. I had to silence all that and follow my gut. And if I hadn't, I would have never started my own company. You're putting your own personal growth at stake by fulfilling other's expectations of you. And that's a scary thought, isn't it? 

4. Because you know yourself better than anyone else. Even your mama, your bestie, your soulmate. Your inner circle know A LOT about you, but they don't know EVERYTHING and they really don't know all the inner workings of your being. And if you're not living up to some expectation that someone else has of you based on some superficial idea of you...that is not your problem to fix (it's theirs). 

5. Because by giving yourself what YOU need, you're really helping the world. That might sound super grandiose, but it's not. The world needs whatever bit of special awesome only YOU can give it. The world needs people to be alive, be present, spread happiness, be kind...and you can't do that if you don't give yourself what you need. 

6. Because no one else's opinion of you should define your reality. This goes back to #4. Don't let someone's idea of what's "practical", or "realistic" (what the hell does that even mean??) dictate your decisions. Don't give them that power. You know you. So you go be you. 

7. Because you don't need that kind of negativity. Yeah, that's right: sacrificing your needs by living up to someone else's expectations surrounds you with negativity. And resentment. You're not doing what's true to you, and that's not allowing you to promote love, or positivity. 

8. Because you're obligated to yourself more than you are to anyone else. In the end, it's just you. Your life. You can't sit there and be pissed 10 years from now that you didn't do what you wanted, or follow your dreams - because you get that chance every. single. day. It just starts with a plan. It starts with you being brave and realizing that YOU MATTER.  

I want to hear from you...so tell me: What's the most stellar reason you can think of to stop living up to someone else's expectations? Leave me a comment...let's share. 

 

 Want our original artwork "free to imagine" peacock pouch to carry around art supplies, tech accessories, make up, magical potions...?? Get it here >>> https://prettypeacock.com/products/free-to-imagine

  • Ana Talukder
  • accessory pouchdivorcedoing what you wantexpectationsinspirationalliving your dreammotivationalnew lifepretty peacockstarting over

Comments on this post (1)

  • Jan 07, 2017

    Ana,

    Thank you for your refreshing, challenging perspective. You’re an incredibly talented person who is without a doubt, doing the job you were made to do. You’re right, we spend a ridiculous amount of time worrying about pleasing others. I will keep your thoughts in the forefront of my mind as I dive into the new year.

    -Nicole

    — Nicole Crowell

Leave a comment