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5 Ways to Know That You Found Your Magical Someone

5 Ways to Know That You Found Your Magical Someone

I'm not a relationship expert. 

That being said, I have had enough relationship experience to know what it's like to be in a relationship that doesn't work, isn't healthy, is soul-sucking because you can't be yourself, and leaves you feeling lonely - all of that was incredibly draining & it was all because it was not with that magical someone.

Now, let me preface this by saying that all relationships take work, of course. There are ebbs and flows. It's not all butterflies and rainbows. BUT - when you're with the right person, you remain sane, happy, and emotionally healthy.

So, how do you know you've found that magical someone?

1. You can totally be yourself.

Honestly, if you can't do this with your partner, it should be an absolute deal breaker. I'm not talking about you being able to leave your dirty underpants on the floor because you forget to put them in the hamper, I'm talking about things much more fundamental and important - like, being able to be your silly, freaky, or painfully quiet, self without apology.

It needs to be easy and totally comfy to be your true self with this someone - that's what makes it magical. That means you don't have to 'reign it in' because you're making your partner uncomfortable, or you don't have to put on a show just to appease him/her. A magical someone takes your quirks, imperfections, and overall weirdness and embraces - maybe even celebrates - all those things that make "you" you.

2.  You truly enjoy being with your magical someone - no matter where it is.

I have never had more fun going to the dump - no lie - than I have had going with Mr. Pretty Peacock. He makes doing super, freaking mundane things like dump runs, the grocery store, the post office - fun. That means that although Disneyland and fancy restaurants are good times, doing the every day, normal, sitting-around-the-family-room- watching-Fixer-Upper types of things pretty damn fun. 

3. You deal with life crap really well.

Like I said before, it's not all sunshine and rainbows in relationship-land.  But when stuff comes up, it's handled respectfully, with kindness, and in a healthy way. No door slamming, no hateful words spewed. And when problems come up outside of the relationship itself, you get after it like a united front working in partnership. 

4.  You're invested in each other's happiness.

I spent nearly two decades not having my efforts reciprocated - and that wasn't because he was unkind, it was just because he wasn't really invested in my happiness. And maybe I wasn't really invested in his in the right ways. 

Now, let me clarify: You should never count on any other person to make you happy. This is not at all what I'm talking about. What I'm saying is that in a healthy, happy relationship you actually feel joy making the other person happy. You want to show kindness, compassion, support, friendship, and love - you don't feel under obligation to do it. You're in a partnership and in a partnership, you both invest in one another. 

5.  Love isn't all you've got.

 Being all giddy and head-over-heels is pretty awesome. But if you don't have a hardcore friendship with your mate, he/she is not the magical someone you need. Sharing a friendship with your person means that there is a level of raw honesty, compatibility, laugh-till-you-cry type of friendship that keeps your relationship in sync. 

I didn't realize the value of humor and lightness in a relationship - don't know how I missed that before. But when you're with your magical someone, you don't even think about it. It's easy to be with him/her, you want to hang out with them all the time, he/she is the first person you want to call when you have anything to share - good, bad, or just another funny cat meme - and they get you.

 

If you're wondering whether or not you’ve found your magical someone, make a list of all of the things you need and deserve from a lifetime partner — and don’t settle for anything less!!! He/she doesn’t have to be perfect, just perfect for you.

 

 

 

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Personalized Latitude Longitude Throw Pillow for Couples

Personalized Latitude Longitude Throw Pillow for Couples

I am delving deep into textiles, people. I love having graphics and artwork on things around the house and on things I use on the daily because it can do a combination of things for me throughout the day:

Entertain me, make me think, cause me to pause and catch my breath, gives my eyes something to look at rather than political posts...

Of course my first endeavor had to be in something with latitude/longitude coordinates on it, right?  We've only been doing personalized work in that realm since 2009...so...like, forever!!!

These pillows are freaking amazing. I LOVEEEE the supple softness of the fabric, the zippered cover makes it so easy to clean, and we sell them WITH THE PILLOW - so you don't have to scramble around trying to find an 18x18" pillow insert, we did that work for you!!

Get them HERE NOW!!! 

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Personalized Latitude Longitude Throw Pillow for Couples

Personalized Latitude Longitude Throw Pillow for Couples

I am delving deep into textiles, people. I love having graphics and artwork on things around the house and on things I use on the daily because it can do a combination of things for me throughout the day:

Entertain me, make me think, cause me to pause and catch my breath, gives my eyes something to look at rather than political posts...

Of course my first endeavor had to be in something with latitude/longitude coordinates on it, right?  We've only been doing personalized work in that realm since 2009...so...like, forever!!!

These pillows are freaking amazing. I LOVEEEE the supple softness of the fabric, the zippered cover makes it so easy to clean, and we sell them WITH THE PILLOW - so you don't have to scramble around trying to find an 18x18" pillow insert, we did that work for you!!

Get them HERE NOW!!! 

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I'm done adulting...let's be mermaids

I'm done adulting...let's be mermaids

Adulting is hard.

Sometimes it makes it easier to know you're not alone in those feelings of being overwhelmed and needing an escape in a bad way.

I drew this little sketch...isn't she cute?

...and I wanted to carry it around with me as a reminder of something magical and happy and beautiful and wonderful and awesome.

SOooooooOOooo...I made it into a zippered pouch.

Want one? They are pretty awesome - get it HERE.

What would you want to see on a pouch? I'm ready to draw!! :)

 

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8 Reasons to Stop Living Up to Someone Else's Expectations

8 Reasons to Stop Living Up to Someone Else's Expectations

I was supposed to be a lawyer when I grew up.

It was a good plan. A solid plan. A practical plan.

For someone else.

So, I bailed on doing it. After I had graduated pre-law. After I had taken the LSATS. After I had applied to law school.

I disappointed a lot of people.

And it was one of the best decisions I have ever, ever, EVER made.

We should all do this type of thing way more. But we don't. We, as people, want to please. We want to be liked. We want to make other people happy - at the expense of our own needs and wants.

Well, stop that nonsense right now.

Here are 10 reasons why you should stop trying to live up to someone else's expectations and gain happiness:

1.  Because you don't have to. Seems so logical, right? I mean, life isn't under any obligation to give us what we expect, so we're under no obligation to give people what they expect. Do it because it makes your heart happy. Do it because it's good for your soul. Do it because it fills your bucket. But don't do it just because it's expected of you - that's just hollow. 

2. Because it's not your job to make everyone happy. Not everyone is going to like us. Not everyone is going to like what we do. And that's okay. That's better than OK - that means we're being real and true to ourselves. 

3. Because you don't need permission to grow.  When I decided not to go to law school, it was craziness. I thought Dad was going to have an aneurysm. My husband at the time was disappointed that we weren't going to be a "power couple" (gag).  My mother felt like all the training she provided on being self sufficient and having a career was down the toilet. I had to silence all that and follow my gut. And if I hadn't, I would have never started my own company. You're putting your own personal growth at stake by fulfilling other's expectations of you. And that's a scary thought, isn't it? 

4. Because you know yourself better than anyone else. Even your mama, your bestie, your soulmate. Your inner circle know A LOT about you, but they don't know EVERYTHING and they really don't know all the inner workings of your being. And if you're not living up to some expectation that someone else has of you based on some superficial idea of you...that is not your problem to fix (it's theirs). 

5. Because by giving yourself what YOU need, you're really helping the world. That might sound super grandiose, but it's not. The world needs whatever bit of special awesome only YOU can give it. The world needs people to be alive, be present, spread happiness, be kind...and you can't do that if you don't give yourself what you need. 

6. Because no one else's opinion of you should define your reality. This goes back to #4. Don't let someone's idea of what's "practical", or "realistic" (what the hell does that even mean??) dictate your decisions. Don't give them that power. You know you. So you go be you. 

7. Because you don't need that kind of negativity. Yeah, that's right: sacrificing your needs by living up to someone else's expectations surrounds you with negativity. And resentment. You're not doing what's true to you, and that's not allowing you to promote love, or positivity. 

8. Because you're obligated to yourself more than you are to anyone else. In the end, it's just you. Your life. You can't sit there and be pissed 10 years from now that you didn't do what you wanted, or follow your dreams - because you get that chance every. single. day. It just starts with a plan. It starts with you being brave and realizing that YOU MATTER.  

I want to hear from you...so tell me: What's the most stellar reason you can think of to stop living up to someone else's expectations? Leave me a comment...let's share. 

 

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Mandala Rings - Fully adjustable to fit your whole tribe

Mandala Rings - Fully adjustable to fit your whole tribe

I love drawing mandalas.  It's therapeutic. It plays homage to my heritage. It allows me to curate images from all over the globe and come up with one, meaningful symbol.

We have these awesomely comfortable, fully adjustable silver Mandala rings with each of our seven words available:

Positivity

Balance

Harmony

Explore

Free Spirit

Wild Heart

Awakening

The word that the mandala represents is on the back of each ring, too - because you need to put these little beauties on with intention.

We're discounted these all the way down to $22 with code: BOHOLOVE until 11/30. 

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Lots of love and hugs to you,

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Inspired: You are Loved ~ Always Inspiral Pendant

Inspired: You are Loved ~ Always Inspiral Pendant

You are loved ~ always.

Those are some powerful words. 

I can be really, really unloveable sometimes. I get obscenely Hangry (hungry/angry). I am inflexible when things don't go as planned. I have an awful temper when I'm in traffic. I lose my marbles when I'm late, or held up.  I hate repeating myself. I'm terribly imperfect.

And, yet...I get some pretty, freaking amazing, unconditional love.  I feel so undeserving of it, at times. Most times. 

But that's the thing, right? We are loved. We earned, won, and have been given love and it's so important to be reminded of that when we enter those dark times where we convince ourselves that we are unloveable.

I wear this pendant a lot. I need to reminded that I am loved...even when I don't feel like I deserve it - and it reminds me to be better. To be kind. To be grateful.

It's amazing to me how four, little words can change my outlook on a given situation. How it can bring me joy and keep me grounded.

I'm so proud of this collection of pendants that have meaningful words on it so that the wearer can be reminded of what's important...go see what I mean here.  And tell me what you would like to see written on your Inspiral...

Pretty Peacock Inspiral Collection

Our entire Inspiral Collection is on sale for just $65 until 10/31! Use discount code INSPIRED - stock up for the holidays!

 

 

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